Why do I let this bother me????

Good Morning OH!!

Lately, it seems that I am make plans with "friends" and they ALL flake on me!! I am starting to think it is me?? Am I too needy? Am I too clingy?? I had plans all this week with different people and they all came up with reasons to not get together. Some are good reasons and some I think are made up. But it still bothers me!!

Am I paranoid? (uh, yeah) but that is besides the point.... I thought once I lost weight that I would be able to get out more and people would WANT to hang out with me more??

I am feeling kind of lonely right now and I knew I could talk to you guys about it!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Love, Beth

I want to hang out with you!!

See you tomorrow!

Thanks Liz!! Looking forward to it!!!

Love, Beth

 Beth, I'm sorry you are going through this.  I feel the same way sometimes, too.  

My thought is that if they don't want to hang out with you, it is THEIR loss, not yours.  People's true feeling come out at odd times.  Try not to think of it as excuses.  Maybe their reasons were legit.  

Regardless, it is THEM, not YOU.  I WILL be there tomorrow and we WILL hang!   And, if I end up moving down there, we will definitely do things together. 

Lisa,

I am so excited about hanging out tomorrow! It is nice to know who your friends are!! I SOOOO hope you move here and YES we will do things together!!!!

Thanks, Beth

Beth

I know how you feel there are times when I FELT  like I was the one making plans and wrangling things and people together, and wondered that if I stopped would i actually get any invitations that I did not solicit. Insecurity and feeling like you dont fit in sucks. But one thing I have learned is that there are so many more opportunities to socialize now, that when they dont work out it seems worse because there are just more.

We want to hang out with you. I am not sure if these are non WLS friends or not but I can tell you from experience that those relationships sometimes take a beating during this.

Nicole,

Most of the people that I was going to get together with are non WLS peeps, but there are some that are. Maybe they feel threatened by my success? WHATEVER!?!? You and Lisa are right, it is THEIR problem NOT mine! It just gives you a complex....

Love, Beth

I have felt this way in the past also the way Nicole feels that if stops planning but the loss is their's...I like hanging out with you. I know we alwayw have a good time.

Thanks Beth!!

(how is that for a name???) LOL!!

Love, Beth

you know i love ya  honey i mean geez i even blew uw up a seven foot birthday cake for ya xoxo